We often bump into each other in that tight space called family. It’s a great space to learn how to be less self-centered and how to honor others. I’ve been working on honoring my hubby for almost 50 years and this is still a daily challenge: Her husband can trust her and she will greatly enrich his life.” Proverbs 31
Here are two things I try to do daily to honor my hubby.
1) COMMUNICATE
Communicating with each other is hard work but essential if you want to enjoy doing life together. I encourage couples to practice, read good books and articles, get help from a friend, counselor or pastor if you need it (and we all do at times) but whatever it takes, get this skill down and just do it.
Here’s a little exercise I challenge you to test drive for a week to improve your communicating. Each day take turns sharing the daily four together: The Daily Four
- What are you feeling?
- What do you appreciate about your partner?
- What are you thankful for?
- Pray together.
2) SERVE
I love to do special things for Don to enrich his life. I’m going to toss out a few sample from my week. Warning: you must be YOU. You need to express honor in your own creative ways.
- Don loves to eat. Even when inconvenient for me, a good meal on the table every day says “I love you” to my man. I love to cook. Could it be due to all those 1000+ meals when he said, “Thanks, that was really good?” Hmmm. Be right back — better check on those pork chops on the stove.
- About halfway through lunch I’ve started putting down my fork (a good thing) and picking up a book (right now it is Heidi Baker’s “Compelled by Love.”) I read an excerpt for us to enjoy together.
- Don also loves football. After years of trying, I still don’t love football, but I do sit by him for Monday Night Football. (He listens to the game on headsets and I read a book on my Kindle.) Just sitting near scores points.
- At the grocery store I picked up three cartons of Breyers Light Vanilla which I rarely eat. Ice cream is a staple for Don on the list above bread and milk, so I make sure the freezer is well stocked.
- I also picked up some mirror chalk (thanks for the idea, Tim & Talor.) This week Don and I started leaving each other encouraging notes on our mirrors. You can see in the picture above his note to me this morning. Honoring.
These are just a few things that came to mind. You can think of a lot more. The main thing is … Just do it!
Love each other with genuine affection and take delight in honoring each other. Romans 12:10
I like this! Recently God has been talking to me about the difference between loving and cherishing. I think there is a lot of honoring in cherishing.
It is nice that Don can eat all the icecream he wants 🙂 I love your blog, sis. I hear a message in every word … can’t wait for the book!
– smile –